How to let things be...

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How to let things be, without worrying or trying to change them before they have a chance just to be? (Nov 9th)

You know how they say you shouldn't eat cheese before bed because it will give you nightmares? Well, the other day, and I have no idea if it is actually a thing, but as I roasted the pumpkin seeds that were left over from our Halloween mini-celebration, I decided it was a good idea to, well, have some.

It was later in the day than I should have, and I was binge-watching something and had more of these pesky things than I ought to have had, but I did, so there's no point in saying I didn't...

Anyway, as I was getting ready to go to bed, I realised I was feeling not just deep sadness, but an actual feeling of depression. It was interesting for me, because I noticed the actual pull to really get comfortable with this feeling and make this darkness stay and do its thing. Back in the day, these feelings were not unfamiliar, and I guess that back then I did do all these things I am now telling you that I didn't...

This time, I just sat with it. I didn't own it. I didn't invite it to stay. I just said to myself that I was noticing the feeling of sadness, and noticing how it was making me feel. I let it be there and I let myself feel it, and after some very long moments, it lifted up and vanished.

This feeling was very unusual for me, which is why I decided it had something to do with the pumpkin seeds before bedtime. Usually, if I feel sadness, I also know exactly what it's about, so it was this not knowing that caught me by surprise, and being able to give the feelings space was the other thing I didn't realise one could do...

As I was reflecting on this the following day, I was reminded of something one of my clients had told me. She said that she can't just let things be, so much so that ruminating now takes a big chunk of her nighttime routine, which, of course, then contributes to a very unsettled night's sleep. So the question that came to my mind was... how do you let things be? How do you let them come in if or as they do, and let them leave in the same way, without inviting them over for tea and a nice long chat?

Here are some of my thoughts... well, three of them...

1. About past worrying... remember this golden nugget: if you're worried about it, don't do it, and if you've already done it, then don't worry about it!
The point here is that we have no way of knowing how things are going to turn out, so we might as well bring in the trust that says things are going to work out just fine, just as they are. Maybe that thing you said was the best thing you could have said after all. And maybe worrying is going to interfere with the divine order of things, so dust up this old curiosity thing and just see how much of all this was just exaggerated by your own negative voice and what it actually ends up being.

2. About future worrying... this is when you're worried not about something you've done but about something that hasn't happened yet. Thoughts about the future, about what you have, what you don't have, and most importantly, how it's all going to turn out like that worst-case scenario you have permanently carved at the back of your mind. The thing here is that if you're worried about your future, you are at the perfect time point to do something about it! (not at 2 am, mind you). Write down your list of worries so you have it clearly stated, and now you can find which of the items on your list are the most important ones and then how you can go about fixing them. Not through fears and worries, but through figuring out your best way forward. (There is always a way, remember?)

3. about what will people say? Pfffff! The way I see it, there are two ways to dive deep into this one. You either need to realise people will always be saying all the things they are too afraid of doing themselves, OR that people are too busy trying to make sense of their own lives to care about yours. Either way, you were not put on this earth to do what is good or right for other people (remember, though, always be kind and don't break the law). You are here to complete and fulfil your own journey here, so worrying about other people getting it or not is nothing more than pure distraction. Get on with what brings you joy. Find your path and your inspiration, and bring some trust for good measures too, because things always work out the way they should, but only after you put them in motion...

Letting things be, letting things go, is easier done than what you have yourself believed. When you do things with kindness and from a pure heart, you don't have so much to worry about it. It's just you doing you. And if you're thinking, I don't know how to just let things be as they're meant to, focus on the things that already bring you joy and the things that put a smile on your face. Everything else, as our friend Einstein said, is details...

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This week in Healing Conversations

This week in Healing Conversations, I chatted with Sarah Dawkins about why 'chronic' doesn't mean 'forever'.

This week, Einav Avni sits down with holistic health advocate and former nurse Sarah Dawkins to explore why “chronic” doesn’t have to mean “forever.” Together, they unpack Sarah Dawkins's inspiring personal journey from traditional Western medicine to discovering the power of natural healing after years of living with chronic conditions.

You’ll hear how Sarah Dawkins overcame physical and emotional struggles, including depression and chronic pain, by reshaping her lifestyle and embracing the four pillars of healing: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Einav Avni and Sarah Dawkins dig into the challenges of breaking free from old belief systems, finding hope in the darkest times, and learning to listen to your body’s wisdom.

A note from my heart: when I talk about people with TMS not wanting to heal, I don’t mean there’s a lack of desire. Often, there’s simply a deep, protective part that isn’t ready to release old emotional wounds. Healing asks for readiness, safety, and compassion, and it’s different for everyone. I hold nothing but respect for those who are trying. If you’re curious about starting this healing conversation, I’d love to connect.
— einav

More about Sarah:
Sarah Dawkins is a passionate Holistic Health and Healing Coach, international speaker and author of Heal Yourself. She’s also a multi-award-winning entrepreneur and the award-winning host of the uplifting podcast Heal Yourself with Sarah Dawkins.

With over 20 years’ experience as a Registered Nurse, Sarah combines her deep understanding of conventional medicine with her own powerful self-healing journey to create a truly integrative approach. Having overcome multiple chronic health challenges herself, she now supports others in uncovering and addressing the root causes of their symptoms, helping them restore balance, reclaim their energy and create lasting, vibrant wellness.

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It’s not a fictional "knob tree." This is real. It's known as the "Fairy Bridge" or the "Key to the Heart."

The legend, as locals tell it, is that if you leave a key here, you are unlocking your heart and letting your sorrows go. You are leaving your burdens behind in this wild, beautiful, and unforgiving landscape.

No one knows for sure when it started. Some say it began with a single person grieving a lost love. Others say it was a fisherman's widow. What matters is that the ritual resonated. For decades, people have been making the pilgrimage.

They bring keys from homes they've lost, cars they've sold after a divorce, old luggage keys from a life of travel that's now over. Each key is a story. A tangible piece of a locked-up memory, a sealed-off pain, or a hope for a new beginning.

When I stood there, the wind whipping my coat, the sound wasn't just the ocean. It was the soft, metallic chime of thousands of keys clinking together—a symphony of released grief, regret, and hope.

It is the ultimate act of anonymous, public kindness. Not one person who left a key there will ever meet another. They won't know each other's stories. But they built this monument together. They created a physical, undeniable testament to the fact that no one is alone in their suffering. Everyone carries a weight. And everyone has the capacity to symbolically leave it behind.

It’s weird. It’s long-lasting. And it is profoundly kind.

The kindness isn't in a grand speech or a monetary donation. It's in the quiet, collective agreement that it's okay to hurt, and it's powerful to declare that you're ready to let that hurt go. Every person who added a key made the pile heavier, but in doing so, made the ritual more powerful for the next person, showing them, "You see? All these people felt like you do. And they took this step."

So, the next time you feel the weight of a locked-up pain, remember the rusted ball of keys on a cliff in Scotland. You don't need to go there to participate in its spirit.

Find your own way to symbolically "leave a key." Write your worry on a rock and throw it in a river. Burn a regret in a fire pit. The act itself is the kindness you show yourself, and in sharing the story, you extend that kindness to others.

Because sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is prove to a stranger that they aren't the only one with a locked heart.

...and also

What to do, or not to do, when caring for someone with chronic conditions or cancer - watch my latest recording here. Feel free to like, subscribe or leave a comment if this feels right :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Osr39Hax2M

A message from the Universe

Dottie's Corner

Just me doing my favourite thing, having managed to finally kick my HUUMAN out of bed, and now I can lie in the warm spot she left behind. Loving it...!

I work extensively with people to help them transform their lives from fears, limitations and compromises, to harmony, alignment and joy, or in other words - helping people find natural healing to mind, body and soul.

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