Next time - Ice cream!
einav avni 
You don't have to put up with things that feel like they are destroying your soul, but how do you know when to persevere and when to let go?
You know how you have these little sayings or habits that only people hailing from your part of the world would understand?
For example, in Mongolia, if you accidentally step on someone, you immediately turn around and shake their hands. In India, you won't eat a mango unless you wash it first, and in the UK, you might want to pay extra attention to what two fingers you raise when you count to 2...
Back where I am originally from (Israel), if you go about your business and bump into the same stranger 3 times, you smile and say that the next time you bump into each other you'll get an ice cream together (no longer strangers).
By the way, if you send me your little habits or sayings from where you are from, I'll make an email dedicated to more of these because I think they are super fun!
But actually, what I really want to write about is knowing when to say 'enough is enough', and all this intro came into my mind as I was thinking about something my mum told me, which also includes the number 3... You can probably see how it all worked out in my head! 😅
My mum told me a story about a time she had to work with someone she didn't respect very much. Very soon after starting the job, the guy agreed to something with someone, that not only went against company policy but also went behind her back and made her feel all emotions under the sun.
She decided that she could 'take' anything 3 times only. Meaning, that if this guy did something similar only two more times then she would resign.
My mum lasted in this job a lot longer than I would have, and this guy did end up violating the rules and how he treated my mum two more times, after which she calmly resigned, never to look back again.
The thing is, that most of us don't have this kind of clarity when it comes to boundaries. Sometimes, we know that 'this has been going on for long enough' but don't know how many times, nor what it all adds up to.
Other times, we may stay away from a person or situation that doesn't make us feel so good, but we won't do anything about it beyond this. This, of course, may go on for a very long time.
Some people will get into a situation they don't like and immediately try to leave and not face it. This is their choice, of course, but an important question is always - what am I here to learn from this and how come this is happening FOR me right now?
The reason why I like my mum's approach is because so she was able to have a very clear conversation with herself about what is acceptable and what is not. With this guy and this particular job, she knew it was better for her to stick with the job, but she also knew this guy was going to make it a living hell. (we came from the same community/neighbourhood so it's not like she didn't know him already).
Today's encouragement then, is to bring things upwards into your conscious awareness and bring clarity (more than a knee-jerk reaction) to what is happening 'to' you.
Clarify to yourself:
- who are the parties involved
- what is being said or done
- how long has this been going on
- how does this make you feel
- can you do anything about it?
- what is the lesson this is here to teach you?
- what will be the last straw that gets you to make a change?
- Can this last straw be accessed sooner? (can you find the wisdom before going through the burnout?)
You don't have to allow for situations or people to drag you down. You just need the courage to walk away when things no longer serve you. I do recommend though, to try and look for the lessons first, because it is my experience that most of the time we get triggered more when we are on the verge of moving to our next growth phase and this lesson is the one that is going to get us there...
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This week, in 'Healing Conversations', I was chatting with Dan Halpern about How To Release Past Traumas and PTSD.
In today’s episode, we’re joined by Dan Halpern, a trauma therapist, spiritual counsellor, and somatic coach who specialises in guiding people through emotional and physical healing.
Dan shares his wisdom on the importance of accepting and being present with painful emotions and recognising their physical manifestations. We discuss the critical connection between chronic stress and physical ailments, the value of resourcing practices for establishing safety, and the need for skilled therapy in trauma work.
Moreover, Dan introduces somatic exercises and the "Yes and" principle in mental health, promoting self-acceptance and growth. We cover practical grounding strategies and tools for managing emotional triggers, offering practical insights to help you shift from reaction to response.
More about Dan:
Dan Halpern is a trauma therapist, spiritual counsellor, and somatic coach who helps self-aware adults step fully into their authenticity and potential. As a Licensed Professional Counselor and lifelong spiritual practitioner, he bridges the gap between modern mental health and timeless wisdom.
Dan guides clients through a process of finding safety, peace, and joy in their bodies, releasing stuck traumas from the past, and learning simple and easy-to-use tools to navigate stress and hardship while embodying one's highest self in grounded and practical ways, in gratitude and connection with the wider web of life.
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This week I also had the honour of interviewing Candace Silvers on her work healing the world, and I mean HEALING people from the most incurable and unhealable conditions! (Healing the Incurable)
Today's guest is the illustrious Candace Silvers, a world-renowned healer and human behavioural expert known for her profound effectiveness in overcoming severe health conditions. Host Einav Avni sits down with Candice to explore her miraculous healing experiences, including cases where she helped a man in a coma, rapidly growing cancers and even a young professional baseball player with a severe head injury recover through her unique non-contact healing methods.
In this episode, you'll hear about Candice's journey from growing up in a movie-star family in Beverly Hills to becoming a globally respected healer, training professionals in over 50 countries. They delve into her philosophy of personalised healing frequencies, the challenges of educating people on their healing needs, and the fascinating ability of her healing to work even through virtual sessions.
Candice shares touching stories of rapid recoveries, such as significantly reducing breast cancer in just 30 minutes and healing a critically ill Iranian woman without medical intervention.
Join us as Candice reveals the importance of being a light despite criticism, the balance between her healing mission and family life, and her passionate belief in the interconnectedness of physical and emotional health. This episode promises to be a captivating exploration of the power of natural healing, surrendering ego, and the profound potential within everyone to overcome illness.
More about Candace:
Candace Silvers is a world-renowned Healer and Human Behavioral Expert sought out by clients the world over.
A pioneer in energy healing, Candace created The Silvers Healing Academy to train students worldwide. She has currently trained healers in 50 Countries on 6 Continents, including countless doctors, nurses, and healthcare workers.
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