One way system?

this question might get you by surprise, so I won't spoil it, but please read on! (Dec' 14th)

I heard this little story about a couple that moved to their new country home, and one day, as they were having their breakfast, the woman noticed her neighbour hanging her clothes to dry outside.
'Look at that, ' she said to her husband... 'This woman doesn't know how to clean her clothes properly. They are not clean at all! Someone ought to tell her to use a better soap...'

The husband, said nothing

This went on for a while. Every time the woman noticed her neighbour hanging her washing, she would make the same comment about the cleanliness of the clothes and the need for a better soap.

One day, the woman again spotted her neighbour hanging her washing, and this time she called out - 'Look! Her washing is spotless now! I wonder who told her to use a different soup!'

The husband said... I got up early today and cleaned our window.... 🤪

The question that comes up as I share this silly little story is, how often do we do the same? Looking at other people and finding fault in their behaviour or way of being, not noticing that the bigger fault is actually on our side...?

Today, as we're nearing that time of year when we get together with family or friends, quite a few of us will be dreading the get-together because of something we believe about the other people, mostly because we're unable to see how we contribute to the problem or situation ourselves?

A little too often, we attribute our own fears and negativity to other people, and now we interact with them based on these beliefs that it's all them, but really, it's something inside of us we are not willing to see, yet.

I was talking with a few people this week, and they were all saying the same thing: "I couldn't speak with the other person because of how they would react". The question we immediately needed to ask was 'how do you know?'. How do you know the other person would react in the way you predict? And also, if you know this is what they're going to do or say, isn't it a little on you to find a different way of saying it? And also, what makes their way of hearing something the deciding factor if you should say it or not? Why do you feel the need to protect them instead of recognising that you are not just saying things to tease, annoy or trigger, but actually, this is your truth, and you do have a right to express it?

I know that many people get triggered around this time of year, so here are 3 ideas to make your life a little easier:

1. Before you speak up, clarify with yourself if this is your truth, or maybe you do just want to tease the other person a little. The question - is it important for right now, or can you keep it for a different time?

2. When they say something that triggers you, ask yourself - is it worth picking this up right now? If you already know they're going to annoy the hell out of you, go find a new person to chat with and ignore anything and everything about that person for now...

3. Many people go to a family get-together and bring with them all the hurt and frustration they felt about their family from the moment they were born. If you bring your old emotions into the here and now, this is exactly what your here and now is going to look like. If this is not going to be resolved right away, leave the hurt at the gate and find a way to have a nice, clean slate for this gathering. (If, on the other hand, you feel going and 'pretending' is going to be double the trouble, then maybe ask yourself how come you're going in the first place...).

I know that I've made a lot of assumptions about your gathering and celebrating situations, so please forgive me if you read this and get even more annoyed.

For me, I love, love, love Christmas. And even though this is a holiday I happily adopted 30 odd years ago, for me, this is a very special time for family and love. I will see my mum get frustrated with the number of presents my daughters receive, I will enjoy every part of the meal we'll make together, and will try and hide my tears when we raise a glass to the memory of my beloved brothers.

I wish you all a very happy festive season and a wonderful start to the new year! I will be taking a couple of weeks off, and the next email will be sent out on Sunday, January 4th!

Thank you for being here, and thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey, in whichever way we shared.

If you'd like to work together in the new year, on finding harmony, reducing fears and bringing your mind, body and soul into alignment, then get in touch. We can absolutely make 2026 your best year yet!

This week in Healing Conversations...

This week in Healing Conversations, I had my mind blown by Nancy Frank and the conversation about her spiritual journey, her healing from terminal cancer and the miracles she attributes to Kabbalah and the Book of Splendour.

Today, we sit down with the inspirational Nancy Frank for a deep dive into what it means to reframe your thoughts and embrace the "magic" of everyday life.

In this conversation, Nancy Frank shares her journey from a turbulent childhood in Brooklyn to exploring spirituality and metaphysics across the US, spanning Colorado, Hawaii, and the Midwest. Together, einav avni and Nancy Frank unravel how experiences with nature, Kabbalah, Huna meditation, and somatic healing have shaped Nancy Frank's perspective on growth, self-acceptance, and what it truly means to heal from within.

Listeners will hear personal stories of resilience, the difference between reacting and responding, and the power of the words we speak to ourselves. Whether you’re curious about spirituality, seeking practical wisdom for your own healing journey, or simply looking for uplifting, thought-provoking conversation, this episode brings heartfelt insights, gentle encouragement, and actionable ideas you can carry into daily life.

More about Nancy:
I have been on a healing and spiritual journey since my teen years. The universe has brought me lessons in every decade to support learning to navigate life in the best way for a fulfilling future. I came from a family dynamic which gave power to the belief that life happens to you instead of making life happen for you.
I witnessed and survived several traumatic events. Each experience gave me practice in compartmentalising and distancing myself from the dis-ease within and around me. It also muted my intuitive gifts. Still, these contrasting situations were important to illuminate, because they eventually initiated me onto a path of healing—both for myself and for others.
I became a Somatic Educator and hypnotherapist/Trainer, gathering tools that set me on a discovery path to uncover the seeds that create a life different from the circumstances I had known and that others are also challenged to rise above.
Finding my heart and reconnecting to spirituality—especially through the Philosophy of Kabbalah—became the bridge and key to my transformation. I am now a year in remission from treatment for what had been diagnosed as terminal cancer. I am here because of miracle-making, and because of the reminders and support from Einav and my tools, that I am a Creator. I am a Healer.

Social Links:
1) https://www.reframeyourlife.us
2) Instagram: @Nancy Chana Frank

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Dottie's Corner

We had an impromptu slumber party in the house, and I immediately claimed the best seat - the one on my HUUMAN, of course!
It was an easy choice to make, and one of the best sleeps of that day!
You should try this too, if you haven't yet... People are SO comfortable!!

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