Marrying up, marrying down… or marrying right?

What drives your decision on how to be where you are? How much of that comes from what truly feels right to you? (Sept 6th 2026)

About five sentences into our conversation, she started talking about her 'Frenemy' (do you know this word, describing a friend who is also an enemy?).

I've heard about this woman before, in our previous coaching conversations, but this time the energy of the words was very different. She no longer looked at what this woman had done to her, how she was treated, or how unfair this woman was. No. This time she simply said: 'I know exactly what she's really like (a friend who would happily dabble in back-stabbing), but I am choosing to be around her so I can get from this friendship anything that helps me become a better version of myself.'

In one small sentence, my client described a situation where she chose being in control over victimhood. She was able to see that there was a reason this woman was in her life, and she opted to see the gifts in the situation, rather than the challenges, rage and discomfort that were there before.

This email/blog is not really about marrying up or down; it's about the idea that we have a tendency to look at things as black or white, instead of choosing what we can get from a situation, and making it a temporary one (as long as it's benefiting us), before moving on with our lives.

You see, my client could have, very easily, decided that this woman was too annoying or damaging to be around, yet she decided to see her for what she was, and made a decision to stay the course, for as long as it was getting her a place she knew she couldn't get to on her own.

Maybe the question isn't always “Should I stay or should I go?” Maybe there is another question we can ask ourselves: “Is there something here that I still need, learn, experience or take from this?” And when the answer becomes no, perhaps that's when we know it is time to move on.

We don't always have to make everything right, perfect or comfortable. Sometimes we simply need to recognise where we are, make a conscious choice about how we want to be in that situation, and remember that we are not powerless!

With love,
einav

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Dottie's Corner

You know how sometimes you have a memory you can't quite figure out if you made it up or not?

This was the case for me until I saw this photo that reminded me that once, when I was allowed to sit with my people at the back, I was also allowed to stick my face out the window and get the most beautiful looks from passersby or other road users...

This was so long ago, I actually thought I had imagined the whole thing! Now that I saw this, I am going to start a petition to get this privilege reinstated...

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