Three Lessons we should all learn today!

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Is it fear of dying or fear of living you are identifying with more, today? Lessons remembered from a celebration of life gathering

It was early afternoon when I received the text message letting me know that my client of several weeks had passed away. It took less than an instant for the grief to reach every part of my body, and with it, disbelief. I only spoke with Joan (pseudonym) a couple of times, but the connection I made with her husband as I was supporting them both meant that his grief was now mine.

Joan's Celebration of Life took place a few days ago, in a beautiful country barn, having turned left as I passed an idyllic equestrian centre.
Friends and family have already started gathering, and then there was I, feeling like a fish out of water, but knowing that I made a promise to be there, and knowing that it mattered that I showed up.

It turned out, as I kinda suspected, that Joan was, before her diagnosis, the life of the party, the kind of woman you wished you'd connected with years ago, so that some of her zest for life and endless thirst for fun and adventure would somehow rub off on you, making you a little more than what you managed on your own.

The ceremony was beautiful. As it turned out, I had plenty of tears to shed, and new resolutions that I wanted to share with you, as three lessons we should all pay attention to - today.

Lesson one:
Life is what you make of it, not what you get given.
We spoke about this before - how we all got born to a family of a long-forgotten choice, and now, here we are, stuck with how they treated us, their limiting beliefs, fears, and conditionings, amongst others.

I know this is a broad message, but what I mainly talk about here is the subconscious decision we have made at some point in life, that what we learnt from our parents or family (etc) is more important than what we actually want for ourselves. So we let the past rule our present and our future, and we let our loyalty dictate what we think of as right or appropriate in life, versus all that we actually feel called to do, be, have and live.

The lesson?
You came here for yourself, by yourself, and with your own set of goals and promises. The people who happened to be your family agreed to show up here with you to assist you on your journey. Not the journey of loving, hunky-dory you wish for yourself, but the journey of helping you achieve your goals and promises. One of these was probably how to learn self-love from a family that doesn't show you any love or kindness of any form. Do you see what I mean?
They came here to teach you something well beyond what they give you, and instead of spreading your wings and following your heart, your gut and your intuition, you spend your days wishing you could do something and worrying that you can't.

Let it go. You do you. Let them do them. And if you're one of the lucky ones that landed on a life where your family is actually supportive and loving (like mine, in many ways...), then use that to find what you really want for yourself, with their blessing!

Lesson Two:
You are NOT going to come out of this alive...
So really, why are you playing this so safe? Why give so much power to your super-active negative voice, and why tread with so much caution? This lesson is for you if your favourite thought is 'better safe than sorry', or 'I can't'.

The lesson?
Find a way to grab life by the horns. Say YES to opportunities that come your way, even, of especially if they scare you. It is safe to assume that you know less than what you don't know (or that what you don't know is greater than what you do know), so why are you insisting that the answers to anything and everything have to come from what you already know?
When you turn to your thinking mind for answers, you are only ever going to be given everything that is practical, realistic, logical, or that makes sense... BORING... where's the magic in that? Magic comes from the unknown. Magic comes when we dare to dream big and not suppress by going to our heads instead of our hearts. So just remember this - what you ask for is already seeking you. And it would have found you already, if you just stopped confusing it with all the logical barriers you keep putting up!!

Lesson Three:
Life is too short to put things (and people) off for later!
Reach out to your family. Contact that friend. Go out for dinner. Go out for nature walks. Join that retreat. Send that email. Ask for that advice. Be more vulnerable. Admit you don't quite know. Be curious and flexible. and say things like - why not, and who knows!

The lesson?
Someone once said the saddest thing there is is going to a cemetery and seeing all the graves of all the people who never had the chance to live. The chance, being, that they left things for later, until it was just a little too late.
I always say that when opportunities come your way, the question to ask is - how come the Universe has put this opportunity in my path? It could have put a billion other opportunities in my path, but if it chose this, it must mean there is something for me to learn from here.
And sometimes it will be the most brilliant thing you never knew could happen, and sometimes it will be less than optimal, but you can bet yourself it must have brought you a lesson you wouldn't be able to get without this. You know what I mean?

There are more lessons out there, of course, but the most important one for now, I feel, is that we should fear less and dare more. See the fear, feel the fear, and then, as Susan Jeffers said, do it anyway!

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This week in Healing Conversations...

This week in Healing Conversations, I chatted with Stephanie James about inner sparks, life after death and more.

In this episode, Einav sits down with the remarkable Stephanie James, a psychotherapist, transformation coach, filmmaker, retreat leader, and international podcast host. Together, they dive deep into how intuition, surrender, and embracing community can transform our lives.

Stephanie shares her journey of listening to her inner voice, which has guided her through pivotal life changes. Together, they explore what it truly means to receive love, the art of pausing amidst life’s chaos, and practical ways to cultivate a deeper connection to intuition.

As the episode unfolds, Stephanie discusses her latest book, sparked by an unexpected conversation with Neale Donald Walsch, which delves into the themes of life, death, and everything in between. The dialogue thoughtfully unpacks the often-taboo subject of death, the healing power of grief, and the importance of living a "big, fat, juicy life" in the present moment.

More about Stephanie:
Stephanie James stands at the intersection of personal transformation and spiritual wisdom. She has woven together her roles as a transformation coach, psychotherapist, international speaker, filmmaker, accomplished author, and pioneering podcast host of Igniting the Spark to bring her powerful content to thousands of individuals whose lives have been changed and inspired by her work.

Her new book, Your Big Fat Juicy Life (and Everything After), illuminates how we perceive life, death, and the magnificent spectrum of human experience. It is also a jubilant invitation to us all to wake up, breathe deeply, and dance with the mysteries of existence. James's narrative shows us how to dissolve our deepest fears and, in so doing, ignite an unprecedented zest for living in our hearts and souls.

Social Links:
1) https://www.stephaniejames.world/
2) https://www.instagram.com/stephaniethespark/
3) https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.james.543/

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If you'd like to continue on the theme of embracing fear, here is an ebook I wrote about it: https://untangledhealing.newzenler.com/f/embracing-vulnerability-and-empowering-change-1

Dottie's Corner

Talking of just grabbing life by the horns, one of the things I like most in the world is the sea! I love the sound of the waves, the smell of the ocean, the energy of possibilities, but most of all, of course, I love jumping headfirst into the embrace of the waves, and if no one is looking, taking a few massive mouthfuls of delightful seawater... To be honest, I do get completely sick afterwards, but I am not the one who has to clean the mess, so I don't mind so much. Especially that I get extra care, attention and cuddles afterwards. See? The sea is a wonderful giver!!

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