What the EGO wants

What you might want to consider when things simply don't go your way...

Have you ever heard this saying? "Constantly moving between 'if you want it, make it happen', vs 'If it meant to be, it will'... argh!!!

So the One Million Pounds question has to be... how do you know when to persist vs when to give up and move on... And the answer, for a lot less than that, is here...
I'm going to divide the answer into 3 parts, to make it nice and uneven...

First, where is the idea coming from?
As the name suggests, when we feel a little trapped or that things are not happening as they should or in the pace we assigned them, we must question - where is this coming from?
If it's coming from our Soul, we will feel expansion, trust, harmony and a deep sense of knowing. If it's coming from the Ego, we will feel impatience, that we need to be in control of both the way and the outcome, we might feel like everything is against us and that everything should have already been happening...

For example:
I had a client who got the opportunity to move to another country for work. It was a dream offer that came after a long time of wishing for it. As the date of the move came closer, she realised she was pregnant, and deep inside of her, she knew she didn't want to go. Instead, she told herself how cool it would be for the baby to be born in this other country and went ahead with it all. Her stay in the other country was less than positive. It had some good parts, for sure, but overall, it felt all wrong, and in the end, she did move back home, and with it came the feeling of alignment and harmony.

Second, how's the timing going?
We know that things always happen in the way and the time that is right for us, meaning, the time the Universe has concluded that we are ready for that idea or the next chapter to come along.
If something we wish for is not happening as we so hoped, it might be a good idea to consider the idea might be fine, but the timing isn't. Ask yourself how ready you are for this idea to materialise, and make sure to consider both cases, the one where everything happens perfectly and according to your expectations, and one where it doesn't. Would you still want this to go forward as you planned?

For example:
When I just finished my coaching course, I had the innate belief that I was ready to start coaching and make this my career of choice and calling. But I didn't know that finding clients was not so easy, and very soon, I found myself in the most challenging position, of having no money, no clients, and no clear way forward. I had to ask myself the first question above, first: am I doing this from ego, or alignment? I knew this was more Soul than Ego, so I had to realise the time was not right; not that I should put everything on hold, but that I needed to change how I was showing up, to help bring this 'right time forward' (time as a question of readiness, not of sequential events over months).
So I found a way to feel less shy and less intimidated by the idea of putting myself out there, and how to disconnect from the fear of judgment, rejection and being seen, and as I was going through my 'becoming' journey, clients started to arrive and my business slowly took off.

Third, the question of flexibility vs rigidness
One other thing we must address here is how we tell ourselves we want this thing. I know that there are different schools of thought out there, with some saying you must see every point and every detail in the thing you wish for, vs the ones who say you just need to have a general idea of the direction you want to go.
So...

Not an example, but a deeper explanation:
Say, that you really, really, really, want a new job. Not just a job, the best one ever. Here are a few things to do and not do, which you can then apply to any other aspect of life:
Don't:
- be too specific on the details of things like company name
- be too specific on the details of the actual job

Do:
- write down the qualities you want in this new job: an idea of how much money you'll get, the brilliance of your manager and co-workers, the positive challenges of the job...
- write down how you'll feel when you get the job: fulfilled, excited, motivated, etc

There is a story that people always talk about, of this woman, who, after a very challenging breakup, decided to take her time finding her next person. She wrote down a list of nearly 200 qualities she wanted this person to have. Things like, sense of humour, and how they will treat her, how their communication would be like, etc... 2 years on, she happened to meet that person, and some (not creepy) time later, when she looked at the list, she saw this person matched all but 2 items on her list. So, yeah - flexibility on the details, but focus on the actual thing you want...

To summarise, not everything you want is the right thing for you, and as our spiritual guide (ok, kinda mine), the Dalai Lama says - sometimes not getting what you want is a brilliant stroke of luck (not luck, we know, but let's use words the crowds can follow).
When everything you put out there is met with more and more challenges, heartache, obstacles, etc, you'd do better to double check the force behind your motives and see where you can release some control that will help bring new results...
Will you try?

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This week in Healing Conversations...

This week in Healing Conversations, I chatted with Puja Shah about using muscle testing to identify the frequencies in which healing can take place!

In this episode, we welcome Puja Shah, a UK-based nutritionist and master practitioner in energy medicine and dive into the fascinating world of healing frequencies and the body’s innate ability to heal itself.

Puja shares her journey from working in hospitals as a nutrition expert, focusing on prevention and personalised care, to her current work using muscle testing and frequency-based energy healing. She explains how she helps clients identify the root causes of their symptoms—whether physical, biological, or emotional—by looking far beyond diagnosis and into the energetic makeup of our bodies.

Together, Einav and Puja passionately discuss the importance of tuning into our individual frequencies, why “one man’s medicine could be another’s poison,” and how emotions, beliefs, and energetic imbalances can all impact physical health. They offer insight into the frequency-based methods Puja uses, including remote muscle testing, and share stories that illustrate how understanding and clearing frequency blocks can enable real, lasting healing.

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Dottie's Corner

On Thursday just gone, I celebrated my 6th birthday. It was a good day, although no cake was had... Instead, the HUUMANS took to singing a strange song every time they met me around the house, and made funny noises I don't usually hear coming from them...
If I have one wish for my coming year is for them to bring me another friend so I can terrorise them freely in the house and not just when we go out to meet other dogs.
I would also love for them to bring over a trampoline... I keep seeing YouTube videos of other animals having so much fun, and I would like to have that, too!

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